So that's it, I'm married now. I don't feel any different than I did before. I should have gotten something pierced or a tattoo. The great part of it is that my family could participate in a formal ritual that publicly declared our committment to each other. It was good to feel special for a day and have a celebration. Tomorrow night is the reception - it should be really nice. We have so many friends working to make it a great celebration. We talked about the formalities and traditions like wedding gifts. One friend stated his belief that we are breaking ground. As the newest happily-married homos on the block, we are establishing the traditions in our own way, he said. What's amazing to me is that our friends are doing so much to show us that we matter to them. Of course they like to throw a good party, but they are spending hours on this. We've already had the discussion about what social significance this has, and my husband doesn't want it to become part of a social action, which I understand. Every article I've read warns of the "dangers" of being married but not recognized by many institutions. I haven't run into any yet that weren't already there.